What I’ve come to learn through working with brilliant women is that our Inner Critic likes to crop up the most when we feel extremely vulnerable. One of the times this vulnerability comes up is in sharing our big secret dreams. In admitting to themselves and others that they do, in fact, want to write. Or they do, in fact, want to start a business or speak on stages or work online and travel around the world.
Just admitting this brings up a bunch of fear-filled phrases,
‘Oh I couldn’t do that!’
‘I can’t show up online like other women do.’
‘I have nothing interesting to say.’
‘I wouldn’t know where to start, really.’
‘I’d need to get another degree/take another course/study more’
Why is this the moment that the Inner Critic steps in?
Because the Inner Critic’s job is to keep us safe. Feeling vulnerable and exposed? Feeling that failure could be imminent ? Expressing our ideas and afraid that we might be laughed at? I can’t think of any better reason for the Inner Critic to step in and pull us back into our comfort zone and keep us safe, could you?
Which is why I’m so passionate about working with women to build self-worth, to manage their self-doubt and their demons so they can take the big leap and follow their big dreams, their big… so they can PLAY BIG.
There is not one woman I’ve spoken to over the years who doesn’t have a big dream. Some big something they would like to do. There’s also not a one who isn’t petrified at the start of the journey to creating that dream into reality and most of the steps along the way.
So if you’re ready to take the leap and you’re Inner Critic has convinced you not to because you’re :
‘Not ready yet.’
‘You don’t know enough.’
Please know that you’re not alone and I’m here to help you overcome this.
Life’s short, be sassy.