Words, stories and prompts direct from my journal to you.
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Your Purpose & Your Gifts have been under your nose all your life sweet heart, you've just been looking the wrong way.
This is my gift to the world, except, it took me 32 years to get here. To this point, here right now. But it was all worth it.
Now, I don't mean to seem ungrateful but this happened to me in Townsville, it happened to me 150kms west of Alice Springs, it happened to me in a restaurant on a hiking track along Queen Charlotte Sound NZ, it happened to me in London, it happens to me everywhere I go.
' I don't know why I'm sharing this,' after they've sharing an intimate detail about their life.
It's just, I've never known what to do with these details beyond accepting them and appreciating them in the moment.
One such occasion, in a restaurant overlooking the water in New Zealand, a professor of Psychotherapy was dining with his wife and struck up a conversation with me that carried on through their entree, mains, desserts and finished with him slipping a tenner into my hand at the end of the night and advising me that I should study psychotherapy.
Do you ever find yourself turning the same thoughts around and around in your head? 'Oh I don't know how I'm going to get this job finished by the deadline. If I don't meet the deadline I'll let the team down and myself...Oh I don't know if I'm going to get this job finished by the deadline....' On and on and on...
Have you ever been stuck in a loop where a certain thought/group of thoughts just doesn't leave for days (or weeks) on end? When it feels like an old record playing and no matter how hard you try, you can't find the STOP button. It just won't stop!
We beautiful humans have anywhere between 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. According to some researchers, as many as 98 percent of these thoughts are exactly the same as the day before, (how boring?).
If you're stuck in a negative cycle of thoughts it be very, very painful to be in our own heads.
One of the techniques you can use to WRITE YOUR WAY OUT of these thought cycles... is changing your perspective. You can write about yourself in third person, from another person's perspective or you can narrate the situation. You can write about the situation as though it's a comedy. Anything to shift your perspective on the situation andopen your eyes to more possibilities that you cannot see because you are running the same thoughts over and over.
If you want to learn how to write from different perspectives, hit the contact button and drop me a line.
Another practical tip you can utilise - when you notice yourself thinking that same old thought again, stop yourself, take a deep breath and replace the thought with a newer, positive one. Even if it is just a thought that OPENS MORE POSSIBILITY. eg. Original thought, "I can't do this." to "I've never done this before but I am going to give it my best go."
Don’t know what to be when you grow up?
Don’t know what your purpose is?
Don’t know what to do next?
I call bullshit.
And you know what?
I don't have all the answers for you like I promised in the title..
But YOU DO.
Deep down, you know. You know AND You ALWAYS have known.
You're just letting other voices get in the way. Read: Fear, doubt, limiting beliefs... lies.
But here’s the truth.
You get to choose.
Here’s the key to that sentence – YOU GET TO CHOOSE.
In every single moment, in every single situation – even if you don’t feel it is this way – you have a choice. You get to choose. Always.
So why are you running around trying to fill yourself with quick fixes, trying to quiet that inner voice with social media, books, conversation, alcohol, junk food, tv?
What you really need?
Where the answers lie?
In your heart.
Walking around with you every moment of every day.
Keeping you alive and speaking to you in quiet gestures.
If only you could silence the noise.
If only you could say no.
No to distraction.
No to procrastination.
No to friends (from time to time)
No to alcohol.
If you could sit still, be with your heart.
If you would listen.
Your answers, your meaning, your purpose, your next move, your next choice? It’s right there.
Just ask and Listen In well.
Your heart is always speaking to you.
So pull out your pen and paper and let it speak to you.
From my dear heart to yours,