A little note on power.
See, we tend to give our power away often, especially when we aren’t feeling great about ourselves. The problem with this is, the more we give our power away, the worse we feel about ourselves so the more we give our power away…. You see the cycle here.
Ways we give our power away;
// saying yes when we mean no
// people pleasing
// not standing up for ourselves
// playing the ‘victim’ - I don’t have enough money to do that, I’m not the kind of person who..
// we don’t ask for time off work when we need it
// we allow our calendars to be a mess of conflicting times
// knowing we know something but not sharing it
// wearing clothes that make us feel invisible/small/unseen
// spending money ruthlessly
There are loads more but those are a few examples.
Here’s another thing about power. Power is attractive. It’s magnetic. Power attracts money, clients, friends, lovers, opportunities.
How can you start to claim your power back?
Set your alarm at least ten minutes earlier than usual; get up and start a positive morning routine. Give to yourself first, Fill your cup.
Dress in ways that make you feel powerful, sexy, empowered.
Have a haircut you love and learn how to deal with your natural hair - it took me years to nail curls
Use positive affirmations as mantras all throughout your day - look yourself in the mirror and even if they aren’t true - KNOW that they will be one day. You are literally thinking and speaking your future into reality. Plant positive seeds today.
Exercise - your body loves to move and you will love yourself more for it. Find something that works for you - walking, yoga, surfing, dance class, aerial yoga, swimming. Try new things. Figure out what is for you!
Meditate. I can’t stress enough the power of focusing your mind. That’s what meditation is. A practice in focusing your mind so you are in control not it. Remember, the mind makes a good slave but a terrible master.
Keep your promises, especially to yourself. This is a biggie. We find it so easy to let ourselves down. Promise we will do something and then, because it’s ‘only us,’ when we don’t do them it’s ‘okay.’ IT’S NOT OKAY TO LET YOURSELF DOWN. Ever. We teach people how to treat us so if we are constantly letting ourselves down, we teach others this. Oh and, not to mention how bad it makes us feel and how this is a massive form of letting your power go. Keep your promises girlfriend.
Do things that you love.
Practice saying NO to people. Remember this when you are saying no - people will respect you more if you say no when you mean no. Because that means, they know that when you say YES - YOU MEAN IT and you will show up with your full being.
I could go on. This is a start.
Reclaim your power.
You are the only thing you have control over in your life. You have control over your thoughts, your actions, your words. So take control back. Master yourself and the rest will follow - the money, the boyfriend, the children, the business whatever it is.
Master you first.
With heart, always,